Transformation

Noah’s life work is to learn to be himself and find joy in the process. And it is both his task and mine to teach others not to judge and…

The best way to manage that whirling hurricane in Noah’s mind is to allow him to change.

Will he like his new appearance? Will he have regrets, feel alone, become depressed again?

I sense the freedom he feels, and I too feel the freedom gained by silently imparting the heartfelt message, I love you as you are.

Stacey and I gave birth to girl twins on the same day, in the same hospital, two hours apart.

He doesn’t want to stand out, or be thought of as different or “transgender”—he just wants to be a boy.

This is the first family reunion since one of my daughters changed genders. How will the relatives react to him?

This is the first time anyone has lodged a complaint against Noah. This is the beginning of our changed life. There will always be people who will be uncomfortable with…

Later, Robert and I find Lydia and Noah among a buoyant pack of band members. Noah is energetic and radiant. He’s standing straighter, carrying himself with new confidence. As dramatically…

We still have lots to work out about his being transgender and what I will, or will not, allow. But we chat now, too. Noah talks about his upcoming band…